The question ALL couples ask me
Over the 25 years that I have been working with couples, the one thing I get asked more than anything else : How can we communicate better? At some point in […]
Weathering the Storms of Relationship
All relationships have the energetic patterning of seasons and weather, just like in nature. Different stages of our relationship can make for overarching seasons and the weather is more a […]
Apparent short term gain for real long term loss
This is a love letter to the Earth, and a call to action to all of us who call this planet home. We cannot continue like this. Something has got […]
Connect to love, connect to life
Our intimate relationships are more important than ever, right now. Why? Because our social circles are greatly reduced, transformed into short bursts of outdoor meetings where we cannot hold one […]
Sex and the Menopause
A woman in her menopausal years is at her highest sexual potential. Yes, you read that right. Contrary to the script of a patriarchal mainstream culture, when a woman reaches […]
Your relationship can change the world
Healthy relationships impact our community and our lives in a positive way, far beyond the relationship itself. They are a rocket fuel to awakening that draw in all those around […]
The medicine within conflict
To find the trail back to love, we turn inside to look within our own hearts and listen to the deeper longings. To find the longing we need to be willing to really feel it and then allow it expression. Even if it is never met, the expressing of a longing opens our hearts again. It’s an invitation to open out into the field of love that’s bigger than either one of you, a call to remember why it is you are still choosing each other.
The gift of shame and guilt
A post for white people on racism, white privilege and unconscious bias When someone calls us out on our unconscious bias around issues of race, and we get defensive, what we […]
Earth Day
There’s a stillness, a quietness, a quality of energy that’s in the field. There’s a difference in how the elements around us are expressing themselves.
It’s as if the volume has been turned up on nature and turned down on the business of humanity.
Communication breakdown
Good communication is essential for the garden of any relationship to truly bloom. And it is where SO many couples get stuck. When we’re stuck here, everything our partner says […]
